It was a late
morning stroll. As usual, I was listening to music and glancing the things
happening around on my way. I always believe that good music in the morning
makes my day, though it doesn’t work most of the time. I was observing a small
cute girl playing with her new boxed Barbie doll in her hand on my lane.
Because of a change of track in my playlist, there was a pause in my ear-phone.
I heard the giggling of that toddler and it was heart-warming more than “Kun
Faya Kun” of Rahman, the last track which I had listened on my playlist. I paused the music completely and was standing
aside to watch her play with the doll in such a way not to disturb her
excitement. She was heartily enjoying
with her toy as if she had got the best thing on earth. She unwrapped the box
and hugged her Barbie tightly as if it was her own kid. Later on, she started
speaking with it in her mother tongue as if the Barbie is responding for
everything. Suddenly, she noticed that some senseless idiot was observing her
and starred at him and ran away with her kid. That senseless idiot was none
other than me. I was completely out of my sense on seeing such a cute toddler
enjoying her life in her own way. After a while, I realized that she left on
seeing my reaction.
I strolled a bit.
An old man, seemingly in his seventies, was playing cricket with his grandson.
Again, I stood aside and started observing the game. I hardly found any
difference in the excitement of the small boy and that gramps. In spite of the
age, there was a flawless fun and bliss amongst them. This reiterated my
thought that they bask in their own way. Both the scenes pinged close to my
heart which stalled my restless mind.
Still, my music
was in pause mode which I didn’t realize. My deep contemplation got ignited
with these scenes. Every one of us knows that the very purpose of this life is
to have fun without harming our peer species. But, do we really keep that in
mind throughout our lifespan? Never. Sooner or later, we all are cornered to
forget this mantra since our busy life demands us to get completely occupied on
“What we have to do?” by leaving no time to contemplate about “Why we have to
do?”. In that case, it is becoming more of survival rather than just living it.
Though many of us feel like negating this factoid, we get no substantiating
facts to do it. Because, we are just
surviving in our life but not living it.
My inner self
prompts the reason for this. That is “Stereotyped Life”. Yes. Most of us are
indulged in a stereotypical syndrome in our lives. So, we aren’t able to define
and design our own happiness in life. We are sticking to just what is already
prescribed. We don’t want to discover our own traits of bliss and happiness. We
aren’t dare enough to break the stereotypes in our lives. In fact, we have
become like caged birds no matter whether the cage is gold. For an instance, we
waste most of our life in merely impressing others. Though few of us consciously
disagree with this fact, our subconscious can’t deny it. The mental state “to
impress others or what others will think or say” demands us to do things which
others like, rather doing things what we like. Don’t buy i-Phone if you really
won’t use. Don’t go to McD or Dominos if you really don’t find it yummy. Don’t
code for money, if you find pain in your ass. Don’t just do it, just for the
sake of doing it !!
This kind of
inclined mind-set deteriorates the values of our own world which subconsciously
hits our mind which in turn makes our life mechanical and apathetic. The
consequence makes our mind malleable and stingy. So, even a trivial distrust,
gloom, disappointment or hurt leads to a universal disease called “Stress”. Many
physicians and research studies warn this generation that more than 60% of us
are susceptible to Psychological disorders, Cardiac diseases and Diabetes
because of drastic change in lifestyle and practices which are mere outcomes of
getting influenced by others.
“Why am I not able
to experience the stainless happiness just like that toddler and the gramps?”
If you throw this query to your inner-self, it would let you realize that “You
have to stop impressing others and start impressing yourself. Break the
stereotypes of your life. You need not follow things bluntly since others are
doing it. You don’t live in dais but on mud. Be original, unique and listen to
yourself rather leaning towards others. Live in your own way. After all, its our life, we
live it only once ! So, be a dumb or deaf if the any dumbo tries to knock the door
of your life. There is no threshold or metric for happiness. So, seek for the
fullest. Everything will automatically fall in place. Love and being loved !! ”
It isn’t about
living towards a dream or a goal in life. Just live for your happiness with no
cost of others’. Just like a Barbie or Cricket, discover yours and just move on
with it. That is what is meant to be our destiny of life ! This thought is neither philosophical nor psychological but as simple
as that.
Don’t just survive but live it.
